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KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #4 Random Thoughts

Magic of Tidying Up

The Sex and the City movie just happened to be on several nights in a row as I began my discarding process, and I felt a bit at odds with KonMari at the time. In her book,  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo, Kondo advises that we should commune with our stuff in private and in complete silence.

In the movie, when Carrie cleans through the closet at her old apartment before moving in with Big, she has her three best friends with her – plus adorable little Lily – along with lots of champagne and great music to help guide her in deciding what should stay and what should go. Well, Carrie’s way seems so much more fun! Alas, I stuck to the KonMari way.

The KonMari Method is not that far off from my own personal experience with moving. During previous moves – including moving my Mom – I’d already begun to sort, discard and pack according to category, long before KonMari had made its way into my life. I started to sort  that way because it was too confusing and difficult to gauge how much of any item I had until I gathered like items all in one place, then eliminated as needed. So, in essence, I had begun doing a very similar tidying on my own. Still, this book helped me to take it one step further.

Moving is a great time to purge and if you have the time, do it well in advance. That way, you can pack all the vases, mementos, cookbooks and so on in the same boxes. That will make it so much easier to unpack at your new home. If you pack by room, the items might not go into the same room at your new place. Clothing, of course, is different, but you might decide to create a library and the books that once went into your office or master bedroom are now going into your magnificent new library.

One of the great things about the KonMari method is it takes you out of the mindset of looking for ways to display or store things and into questioning whether or not you need them in the first place. Also, by categorizing your belongings, you not only see the quantity of items you own, you can determine how many near-duplicates you have and just how many your lifestyle requires.

Kondo prompts us to ask ourselves about each item, “Does this spark joy?” I’ve added a caveat to that: “Am I willing to pay to move it?” If I don’t feel the least bit interested in paying to move it next time I move, it goes in the pile. That has taken me off the fence several times.

I  have to also admit that using the Stylebook app in conjunction with the closet cleanse has been a real eye-opener for me. Not only was I required to touch every single item in my wardrobe and choose what brings me joy, I also have an inventory which will help me to make better buying decisions in the future, as well as better utilizing my wardrobe in general. More on that when I discuss my closet in-depth.

Seems I’ve always had an eBay pile which has held up my tidying, but this time I’m going full force. i probably added another 30 items easily to the eBay pile just from my closet. Kondo doesn’t really cover the idea of selling your discards in her book, but in a transcript of a Q&A she gave which I found online, she said if it brings you joy to sell it, then do so, but it will take time and are you willing to put your joy on hold while you do? Good question but at the present time, I’d say it’s a yes for me.

One thought I had along the way is that, God forbid, should I not walk this earth tomorrow, all my belongings would just be stuff, stuff that gets donated or sold at a garage sale or parceled out among my family or trashed. So, while I may have an emotional attachment to an item, no one else probably will, at which point I have to ask myself, why should I? If something truly sparks joy, that’s not an issue. It’s always the things we ruminate about that are the culprits, energy wasters, power takers.

Kondo solves the problem of where to begin. Other books offer alternative methods of cleaning and organizing, and I have found a few that delve into the psychology of why we have what we have. But Kondo uses a very pragmatic approach to discover which belongings truly bring us joy, and provides a gameplan to attack in a specific order. Does she answer all my questions as I’m going through the process? No, but it’s OK to think for ourselves and that’s part of the reason I started to blog about it. You  might have similar questions.

I’m very excited to be on this journey, and I hope that you’ll be inspired to begin your own and to share your thoughts. I can’t wait to see how much I’ve discarded in the end!

So, enough talking, let’s get to work! Next up: Clothing.

Enjoy!

Cindi

KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #2 Process

Magic of Tidying Up

It seems talking about one’s personal possessions ranks right up there with money. Both subjects are taboo. Much as we don’t share our financial details with others, sharing the quantity and status of what we own is usually off the agenda. And, as we hardly ever entertain in our homes any more, it’s often not a topic one worries about.

But this book changed all that for me: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo, Once I read it, I wanted to jump right in and share my thoughts and experiences. However, after reading the book, i still felt i needed a bit more information. Kondo lives in Japan and while Japan and quite frankly most of the world have much smaller housing and storage than we Americans do, i wanted to see how others were approaching their tidying after reading her book.

I’ve also recently been fascinated by the tiny house craze (see future post), so the whole concept of taking it down to the studs, so to speak, seems to fit with Kondo’s method.

I opted to go to YouTube since there were some questions I had that needed visuals, like how to fold your clothes properly. She talks about it in her book, but I wanted to see it in action.

I particularly love Lavendaire’s short videos on folding clothes the KonMari way. She’s super sweet and went through the discarding process in her abode, which she also posted on YouTube. And, I love her hair! Check out the videos on her channel here:

Lavendaire

I was also drawn to the series of KonMari tidying sessions by Jen at Pretty Neat Living. She’s sort of a cross between Lea Michele and Charlotte from Sex and the CIty with a touch of Jennifer Garner. She’s very genuine and you feel that she could be your friend for life. She’s a lifestyle blogger who covers a variety of topics from travel to cooking and, of course, organization. Check out the videos on her channel here:

Another person I found intriguing was Living Like Julie. Julie is also a lifestyle blogger who shares her insights on a variety of home and beauty topics. She has gone through the KonMari tidying and has a number of great videos posted. She’s so relaxed and in control of everything. It’s refreshing to watch her videos. Here is a link to her channel:

Living Like Julie

There are videos of speeches Kondo has given, but I just don’t have the time for it at the moment. However, I do want to go back mostly to see the photos she includes in her presentations. The befores and afters must be pretty mind blowing!

Kondo has a specific order for cleaning, beginning with clothing. If you can’t do all your clothing in one day, then break it up into small categories, but don’t jump to another category until you finish the one you’re currently working on. This is a test of self-control as I want to go and grab those items I know I want to toss, but since she says there’s a method to her madness, I’ll aim to follow her rules.

I didn’t find much on YouTube beyond clothing, books and paperwork, the first three categories in the cleansing process. I don’t know if people tired of cleaning or they just haven’t gotten there yet, However, there are some folks who made it all the way and for them, i applaud their tenacity. This is hard work!

There are some other videos I liked. Kondo says not to let anyone else see what you’re discarding, but the gentleman in the Project Lifecoach video is so cute when Mom comes in to see what he’s tossing:

Another favorite of mine was when the woman was sorting through her shoes and her husband decided to join in:

You would think I could search online forever, inevitably delaying my own tidying journey, but alas, i tired of all the extra info. I went back to the book and started to plan my own household cleanse.

Oh, yes, there was one more bit of information I found online that really got my energy in high gear for this. More in my next post.