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KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #12 – Folding

KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #12 – Folding

If you’ve read the book and are joining the fray, then you understand that folding is a big part of the KonMari method clothing cleansing/storing experience. Of course, the book I’m referring to is Marie Kondo’s book,  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. And, if you’ve been following along with me on my KonMari journey, then you know that I’ve dealt with the folding issue in some of my previous blog posts.

My first introduction to the KonMari folding method was to watch videos on YouTube. The folding seemed easy enough but I wasn’t sure that it would a) save enough space to be worthwhile and b) keep the clothing from wrinkling.

I can understand the whole bonding with your clothing idea and by touching each piece every time you fold it, you can identify areas that might need repair, or even that the piece of clothing has outlived its usefulness although it still brings you joy. But, I’m still not totally sold on the concept.

Just so you know, I’ve always liked to fold certain clothing items. If it goes in a drawer, it’s folded. I’ve also worked many years in retail and I love the look of perfectly folded displays. However, the KonMari Method suggests a different way of folding clothing which required a tweak to my previous habits.

Mastering the technique is pretty simple. Once you fold a few pieces, you develop a rhythm that sustains you through the pile. It kind of reminds me of when I used to spend an evening ironing. It’s almost like active meditation.

However, I’m the kind of person who likes to hang the majority of my wardrobe. To me, out of sight is out of mind. That may explain why my folded shirt drawers – although they look marvelous! – are in such great condition almost two years after their initial KonMari fold. Since the tops are no longer hanging, I forget I have them and often choose something else while I’m in the closet. On the upside, I was able to fit a large quantity of tops into two drawers which opened up hanging space for new purchases!

I’m not convinced that folding works for everything except dresses, coats and jackets or flowy tops. I feel a lot depends on fabric and frequency of use, and some items are too difficult or small to fold. I suspect that many people who have cleansed their wardrobes with the KonMari method will have relatively minimal wardrobes left so everything will get used regularly. That’s not me!

I opted to fold some items because, as I stated in one of my first posts on this journey, I wanted to more efficiently use the space I had, both in my closet and in my drawers. I have a lot of stuff to fit into a small space, so folding seems to make sense. Once I’ve had a chance to completely redo my closet, I’ll have a better idea of how it all works for me. My closet is supposed to be big enough for two and even after this initial cleaning, I’m having trouble fitting just me in it.

When you watch the videos of KonMari folding, everything looks wonderful when it’s initially folded and the drawer is full. To me, the issue is just how quickly it can get ugly once you start pulling items out. You have to regularly adjust what’s left to keep some semblance of organization.

I’ve seen on blogs several people who have absorbed the KonMari Method of folding, and use it not only at home but to pack their suitcases and set up their hotel rooms. I suspect, now that I’m utilizing this method, I’ll continue to do so for years to come, but I will also hang as much as I can.

I feel your relationship with your clothing is very personal but also something we all struggle with, particularly when it comes to organizing everything. We forget what we have which is why utilizing closet/clothing/style apps help. However, they do take time to maintain and I must admit, I’ve fallen away from using mine. I just have higher priorities at the moment, but I think they’re amazing aids and I wish I had mine updated.

Now, before I digress further, here are a few pointers regarding my KonMari folding experience.

  1. Watch videos. There are several on YouTube, not only by Kondo, but by several people who follow the KonMari Method. I highly recommend watching the videos before you begin your folding phase.
  2. Use plastic. I know Kondo suggests using leftover shoe boxes and lids for small item storage, but I much prefer plastic. Cardboard is susceptible to dust, bugs and dampness. Even in a drawer, cardboard gets dusty and dirty and is just too difficult to clean. Plastic can be washed and dried at will, and if you buy the clear plastic, you can actually see what’s in there. My vote is for plastic.
  3. Cut the tags. Kondo suggests cutting all tags so your clothes will feel wanted and part of your life. I’m paraphrasing here. Anyway, I struggled with this at first. Sometimes you like to know which tops are new, particularly when it comes to camis, tamis and tanks. There are times when you absolutely want to wear a new one, and once you cut the tags, that easily identifiable designation is gone. However, if you’re going to fold, you quickly discover that the tags get in the way. Even when I was sorting, the tags kept tangling. So, I caved, dug out the scissors and cut the tags.
  4. Look at the big picture. Once you’ve cleaned through all your clothes, they need to be organized in a manner that works for you. It might mean emptying everything – again! – so you can decide how best to locate your clothing. Coats in the coat closet. Pajamas in the night stand. Scarves on a hanger. Figure out how you’ll best utilize everything you own, then organize it that way. Not everything has to be folded.
  5. Fold smoothly. Be sure to smooth each item out before you fold it, otherwise the creases will likely remain. Some items are easier to do than others, and some, like pajamas, you might not care as much if there is a wrinkle or two.
  6. Fix what you see. The good thing about folding is that you do see every inch of an item you’re folding. Tears, snags, falling hemlines, and so on, become ever more obvious. Also, you can see when a piece of clothing needs to be tossed due to wear. I sadly donated a few shirts when I got up close and personal with them.
  7. Do what’s best for you. Remember, in the end, the KonMari Method is simply the suggestion of one organizer who wrote a book. Fold or not fold. Your clothing is up to you.

I’d love to hear your comments on how you’re adapting to KonMari folding and organizing your clothing. Leave your comments below!

Next up, more random thoughts and what I’ve learned so far. Join my feed on Bloglovin’ or catch my Instagram posts to keep up to date.

Enjoy!

Cindi

 

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KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #11 – Clothing Summary

Magic of Tidying Up

Well, I’ve completed all the categories when it comes to my clothing, so a quick summary of my work is in order. As for the tidying, i still have items in my closet that will be cleaned in future categories, so I haven’t completely tidied it yet. My dresser and nightstand drawers are in much more organized condition and remain that way, but the closet is still a work in progress. We’ll have to wait until i finish the whole house before I can show the difference. However, I wanted to touch on a few points regarding my clothing cleansing process. In case you’re wondering, I’m following the recommended category order detailed in Marie Kondo’s book,  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing.

It’s possible there’s a major mind shift that takes place when you actually put all your clothes into one big pile. the overwhelming feeling of how much stuff we have just in clothing! Due to the limited amount of space I have, plus the fact that I take care of my Mom and it’s not possible to have a big mess all day just to satisfy Kondo’s requirements, it wasn’t practical for me to follow the KonMari method to the letter. Still, I was amazed at how much clothing I had in my wardrobe.

I think something else that happens when you put all your clothes into such a big pile is you realize that so much of what you own is not who you are. I didn’t have the big “Ah-hah!” moment because I did my discarding by sub-category, but even though I had already done a good purge about a year ago, looking at all my clothes within a short period, rather than just picking through the racks, showed me that i had several items that were good for me a few years ago but it just wasn’t who I am now.

As I write this, even though I’ve already driven my donations to the Goodwill and set aside a number of items to eBay, i’ve decided to let go of even more. Some items became more apparent once I started to catalog my wardrobe in the Stylebook app. Others came about because they nagged at me as they hung in the closet, or I decided to try on a few things and realized some shoes will always hurt and there’s just no getting over it no matter how much I love them. So, in addition to the tallies presented below, I’d say there will be an additional garbage bag and a number of eBay items to go into the pile. And, it feels good!

Here are the bags of clothing I donated to Goodwill.

I’ve noticed that now that i’ve pared down my wardrobe, I’m more creative in putting outfits together and I’m using items I rarely if ever used because I kept wearing the same things. The very first time I had to make a choice after I cleaned through my closet, I admit, I felt a bit of apprehension; I was definitely a bit anxious. I just took a deep breath and dove right in. It really wasn’t that scary after all. Now I challenge myself to wear different things. I pretty much have no choice. All the old stuff is gone.

One key reason for working through the KonMari method, at least regarding my closet, was that I wanted to make more efficient use of my space. Well, there’s less in it, but I’m not so sure I totally accomplished my goal. However, making my clothes look pretty is definitely an accomplishment! Folding items that need to be folded makes those areas look very organized. I often want to open my drawers to look at how neat everything is.

In my closet, I switched to the Huggable Hangers about two years ago. I couldn’t decide which color to get, so I went with gray. At the time, they didn’t offer a color that I wanted to use. Well…since then they introduced a vibrant violet purple! I was able to get enough hangers for my closet for a screamin’ deal and now my closet really vibrates with great energy.

Kondo mentions in her book that we should cut the tags from our clothes when we bring them home so they can fully feel part of our wardrobe. I hemmed and hawed about that for a while, in the end agreeing with her. As I was going through my hanging things, the tags kept getting tangled up; it was a nightmare. When it came time to fold, the tags would get in the way or snag. So, i dug out the scissors and cut the tags. Now my clothes are happier.

Kondo also suggests organizing your clothes from the heaviest and longest on the left to the shortest and lightest on the right. If I had just a simple closet on one wall, that might work. However, mine is two short walls and I need space on both of them. I always organized my clothes by category, and within each category I organized from light to dark, from short to long within each color. I think for the time being I’m going to continue to do so because I’ve done it that way for a number of years and it more easily fits my space.

These are some of the items I decided to keep.

I do have some evening gowns that I have no idea how to store. I love them and they bring me joy just to touch. However, they are long and bulky and can’t be hung due to their weight. Maybe once I’m done with the whole house I’ll figure it out.

In all, I parted with about 45 percent of my wardrobe. Maybe 50 percent. I’m still tossing. I had no idea I had that much that needed to go. My whole closet feels different when I slide open the door. It’s a really fabulous feeling, and once I get through the rest of the non-clothing that’s in my bedroom (when those categories come up), I just might accomplish my goal after all.

Before we get to books, I’ll still have a couple of posts on my thoughts on clothing per the KonMari method. Join my feed on Bloglovin’ or catch my Instagram posts to keep up to date.

Enjoy!

Cindi

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Cindi’s Thoughts – KonMari – Does your house have a set point?

Does your house have a set point?We often hear how our bodies have a set point for weight, that no matter how hard we try to lose, it will always work harder and harder to get back to a weight that it feels comfortable maintaining. Much the same, we try to keep our home organizing in check with the one in – one out rule: For every new item we bring into the house, something has to leave.

So, as I’ve been going through my house with the KonMari method, I noticed that as I was getting rid of things, others somehow were making their way into newly found spaces. I got rid of clothes and shoes, but I had to replace some and I added others. Not as much as I had before, definitely, but I felt a little on the skimpy side when I opened my closet doors after the initial cleanse.

It wasn’t only the closet that was affected. I now have a collection of photo props, things I might have considered tossing, or things I needed to buy, just to improve my business photography, plus other small tech items for my business.

Then, there are new sheets (I went all white) and a quilt because I’d been trying to replace one I received as a gift several years ago. When I found it, I felt joy. Isn’t that the whole point of this KonMari exercise – surround yourself with things that bring you joy? Now, it’s possible the things that bring you joy were buried under those that didn’t, but if that’s not the case, you will find a way to bring in the joy.

Once you clean through your house, you open up the space to allow new, wonderful things to happen. Want to learn to play guitar or keyboards? There’s room. How about learning to paint? An easel will fit. Need a home gym? There’s lots of space.

I’m sure when this whole house is KonMari-ed and I’ve finally sold everything I want to on eBay or Amazon or wherever, my house will have significantly less contents. And, I hope to be able to find and use everything I keep. After all, I quite enjoy the fresh air and free space I get when I clean an area and I have no intention of putting something new in its place.

Still, I wondered: How many of you have cleaned through your house and felt great, only to have to return to doing it again a year or two down the road? Kondo says that if you use her method, you won’t experience that again, but I don’t believe that. People change. Circumstances change. People move. Things break.

However, I think that once everything has a home and we’ve all developed new Kondo habits, we’ll be more aware when things are starting to get out of hand and address the issue quickly. List something on eBay immediately when we determine we no longer want it. Have a donation box in our closet. Throw something in the trash when it’s broken and not just relocate it to the garage. Sounds simple but will that initial KonMari elation fade over time?

To me, deep cleaning is like peeling back the layers of an onion. You remove the first layer or two of items you no longer want, only to realize you can go deeper and deeper still. Items you thought brought you joy actually don’t. Over time, you get better and better at realizing what makes you happy.

As the unjoyful leave us, there is room for the joyful to enter. I suspect there are people who feel the need to be surrounded by material possessions, but the point of KonMari is to connect with what you have. Items are not created to sit on a shelf or in a box. They are made to be used. Without the utility, the circle is not complete. Using might mean something as simple as enjoying a piece of artwork; if it’s hanging on the wall, it’s being used but if it’s sitting behind a dresser, not so much.

Not only should we surround ourselves with things that spark joy, we should be grateful for the joy that these items bring us. And, of course, remembering that the joy in life comes from many different places: relationships, experiences, even challenges.

But that brings us back to the opening question: does your house have a set point? In my heart, i believe homes can get along just fine with less filling. They just need to feel loved and experience love within their walls. What do you think?

Enoy!

Cindi

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KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #7 – Bottoms, Pants and Skirts

Magic of Tidying Up

Now that I finished sorting through my tops — which I think is one of the toughest clothing categories for me because there are just so many sub-categories — it was time to find joy in my bottoms.

As I said before, I have to take the time to do this tidying exercise in fits and starts as I take care of my Mom and I’m never quite sure when I’ll have the presence of mind to make joyful decisions about the items that surround me. So, I’m slowly going through the categories as defined by Marie Kondo in her book,  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, I suspect my time constraints are no different than for anyone else with a normal, busy life. So, I’m here to say you can do it in spurts. Just keep moving forward!

Bottoms, for me, are quite an easy category as I don’t have near as many as I do tops and I clean through them on a regular basis. Some folks I know have over 75 pairs of just jeans. I don’t own 75 bottoms in total!

I started with skirts. Now, very few people have ever seen me in a skirt or a dress, but I do like them. I wear them on occasion and buy only what I really, really like. I have 11 and I kept them all.

I don't have too many but I do like them!

I don’t have too many but I do like them!

As for shorts, I don’t have many of those either. In spite of the fact that I live in the desert, I tend to only wear shorts around the house, and will switch to pants when I go out. I used to buy certain brands that I liked but they are no longer available and I haven’t replenished them. However, I did an honest purge here and got rid of over half.

Just a few shorts here, too!

Just a few shorts here, too!

Pants, as I said, I constantly update. I have specific brands and styles I like so when they go on sale or I see that one is wearing out, I toss and replace. However, I realized I was keeping a few pair that I hadn’t worn since the last century. Amazing they were still in my closet! Out they went! I kept 75 percent of my pants.

There are more in the drawer but these are a few in the current rotation.

There are more in the drawer but these are a few in the current rotation.

I do have some special occasion pants which are not included in this bunch. That’s a future category. These are my everyday and work pants and jeans.

I did demote  downgrade – one or two pair of pants to loungewear, which is verboten in Kondo’s world, but I think they were originally loungewear and I upgraded them. So, now they got put back in their place.

I know Kondo is very specific about not downgrading any clothing.  With the KonMari Method, you should just get rid of it. In many cases, I agree but I’m not completely sold on the idea. I spoke with some friends about this and they all said they downgraded clothing and that allowed them to get additional life out of items they loved. In the book, Kondo’s experience has been that downgraded clothing simply becomes a pile that takes up space and is never worn again. If that’s the case, then yes, discard.

I don’t believe loungewear is the only category to downgrade to. After all, you don’t want to purchase brand new clothing to clean the garage, paint, garden and so on. One usually wears clothes that have seen better days but still have life in them. I realized this after I cleaned through all my t-shirts and discovered I only had good ones left, ones I would never wear for really dirty projects around the house. Luckily, there was one in the hamper that fit the cleaning category.

We in the United States are very blessed with lots of space and need appropriate clothing to do certain chores. Downgrading clothing is normal to me for specific circumstances. Maybe this is simply how I was raised and you have different experiences. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

As for storing my bottoms: Skirts, obviously, need to be hung. So, they remain in the closet. Shorts have always been folded, so no change there. However, where they are located after this journey remains to be seen. Pants – well, the jury is still out on how I want to handle my pants. I have lots of friends who fold their pants and many others who hang them. I’ve generally hung the ones in current rotation and folded extras in a drawer. I really can’t decide what I want to do here. As I clean and rearrange my closet, chest and nightstand, I certainly hope that the answer becomes evident.

My closet continues to show a shift to one which I feel reflects my personality. thus bringing me joy. There are still several clothing categories left (shoes, accessories, etc.) so the sorting and discarding continues.

Thanks for joining me on this journey. There’s much more to come. Next up: Clothes that should be hung.

Enjoy!

Cindi

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KonMari Cleaning Playlist #1

Magic of Tidying Up

I know, I know. Marie Kondo, in her book,  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, clearly states that you should commune with your belongings in private and in complete silence so that it’s easier to decide what to keep and what to discard. However, I think many of us use music as a motivator, a calming presence, good company or for many other reasons. Music is pretty much playing non-stop.  So, now that my tops are done, I’ve created a playlist that I hope you’ll enjoy.

I chose these songs for my first KonMari playlist because their titles offer a tongue-in-cheek view of our attachment to things and the decisions we need to make as we’re tidying things up.

  • Heartbeat – because our hearts are racing to get started – and to finish!
  • True Love – because many of us have a strong connection to our belongings
  • A Little Less Conversation – because we’re supposed to be doing this in silence
  • I Need You – because it’s so hard to part with things sometimes
  • Help! – because we all could use a little help going through this tidying process even through we’re supposed to do it alone
  • Heartless – because sometimes we just have to be heartless and put an item in the discard pile
  • Vampire – because all this extra stuff is sucking the life out of us!
  • La Vie en Rose – because sometimes we just want to deny we have too much and view things through rose colored glasses
  • Thank You – because we must show gratitude to those items we discard and thank them for spending time with us
  • The Clean Up Song — because at the end of the day, we need to put everything back in order

I listen to quite a wide range of music, and in the last few years I’ve been particularly introduced to new and independent artists in a variety of genre from pop to folk to kindie rock and oh, so much more, from the radio hosts at WHFR.FM. I listen to Phil Maq and his show Theme Attic weekly, and catch other programs as time permits. Jillian Rae (Heartbeat)
and The Whiskey Charmers (Whiskey Charmers) are two that I’ve come to love because of Theme Attic.

I hope you enjoy this little respite from all the hard work involved in tidying the KonMari way. Let me know your suggestions for good cleaning music!

Come back again to see how I do with my next few categories. Thanks for stopping by!

Enjoy!

Cindi

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KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #6 – Tops

 

Magic of Tidying Up

Thank you for coming along with me on this journey and I do apologize for the lapse between posts, but once you get started on this journey, it seems to take on a life of its own. I’m further along than my posts indicate, and I’m putting a lot of thought and analysis into what I post, so it’s taking me a bit longer to get my info out than some others might. However, I do hope that we both learn along the way!

When we last visited, I had just begun working my way through the categories as recommended in the book,  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo. Clothing is first up, and I did my energy test of my t-shirts, to see if I could feel the joy with my eyes closed. You can read the post here.

Next it was time to tackle tops. I hate to admit it, but even though I seemed to have quite a few in my closet, i gravitated to the same dozen or so and wore them over and over again. I’m sure everyone was sick of seeing me in the same ones, but I really liked the way I looked in them and they were quite comfortable. It’s hard to argue with comfort.

However, as the book title states, this process is supposed to be life changing, so it was time for me to take a hard look at exactly what was on those hangers!

I began with my winter season tops as it was the heat of the summer when I was doing this, so long-sleeved sweaters were the last thing on my mind and probably the easiest to form an objective opinion about. In fact, Kondo suggests working on your off-season clothing first. Makes total sense.

I got a little cocky after my t-shirt experiment and decided just to hold the hangers, not the actual clothing, as I made my decision. I quickly went through my winter tops as I don’t have that many living here in the desert, sorting by what to keep versus what to discard. This time, I took a more objective stance and made the choice simply by whether or not it had been worn enough times to make it in the record books. Yes, even if something brings you joy, at some point you must thank it for its wonderful service and pass it on.

I initially discarded about 20 percent of my winter tops, then hung the remainder back in my closet. My clothes are always organized by color within each category in my closet, and as I was hanging them, i realized I could part with a few more. Once they were all hung, I pulled out even more. It seemed as if my closet was creating a certain look – hopefully, my look – and those items that no longer fit really stood out. I ultimately went through my winter tops about four times. Probably would have been easier to do it the KonMari way in the first place.

In the end, 45 percent of my winter tops found their way into the discards. Unfortunately, I was so busy playing the hanger game I neglected to take photos at the start of this category. Here are the keepers.

Here are my joyous winter tops, no ugly Christmas sweaters in the bunch!

Here are my joyous winter tops, no ugly Christmas sweaters in the bunch!

Once winter tops were out of the way, it was time to address all my three-season tops. Here, again, I found that I was wearing the same few over and over again..

I decided this time to take them off the hangers to sort them properly. As I was deciding which brought joy and which should hit the discard pile, i realized i had several i didn’t even know I owned! In fact, price tags were still dangling from the seams. So, I actually had to make a third pile – try-ons – to determine which could stay and which could go.

As it turned out, i kept over half of the tops with tags. As for the rest, even if they fit and were in good condition, if they didn’t bring a smile to my face, i bid them adieu.

Overall, i released 41 percent of my three-season tops into the universe.

Spring and Summer Tops

These are what I consider my three-season tops as I can wear them nearly year round

Then came the basics: camis, tamis and tanks. This category took up a big section of my closet, but after reading Kondo’s book, I decided i would fold these and place them in a drawer.

When they hung in my closet, i grouped them by color rather than style with the mindset that they all go under some other article of clothing – from a top to a jacket – so I would probably decide on color then select a style. Well, I’ve had a change of heart and decided to separate them by category, then color, when I folded them in my drawer. As it turns out, I didn’t realize I had certain items because of the fact they were colorized not categorized.

As these are basics, I can’t really say they offer any overabundance of joy. I use them as needed. So, i turned on the big overhead light in my bedroom and checked for condition. I had a number of new ones here with tags still on, but several had seen only one or two uses. i kept 69 percent, and spent several minutes folding and categorizing them for the drawer. Don’t they look pretty?

Here's the mess of camis, tamis and tanks before the big folding session.

Here’s the mess of camis, tamis and tanks before the big folding session.

Here they are all nestled in the drawer. Even using Huggable Hangers, I save a lot of closet space by folding them.

Here they are all nestled in the drawer. Even using Huggable Hangers, I save a lot of closet space by folding them.

I highly recommend using the brightest light you can when making these clothing decisions. Harsh lighting exposes a multitude of sins. Besides, if something brings you joy under those circumstances, just think how happy you’ll be in candlelight!

Now that tops are done, what category will I do next? Come back and see!

Enjoy!

Cindi

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KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #5 – T-shirts

Magic of Tidying Up

I think the book,  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo, is all about challenging yourself to think differently. And, for me, I decided to face things head-on!

Kondo highly recommends sorting and clearing through your stuff in a very specific category by category way. First stop: clothing. For me, that began in my closet.

One reason I was excited to start on the closet was as a personal challenge. The walk-in closet in the master bedroom is seemingly adequate for two people. However, I have overtaken every square inch of space in it – in addition to a full nightstand and six-drawer chest. If I were married, I have no clue where my husband’s clothes would go. One nightstand is kept empty for that purpose; however, the closets in the other two bedrooms are unavailable. One is for my office and the other is in my Mom’s bedroom. So, there is only this one closet for two people. The house does not have a linen closet, so all sheets, mattress pads, comforters and other bed linens must be stored in the closet as well.

i took “before” photos of my closet, but i’m not going to include them in my posts just yet. I’ll wait until I complete my clothing purge, catalog everything in Stylebook, sell some discards on eBay and fold and store the keepers as I see fit. Plus, I have many items in my closet that fall into future categories, so I won’t be cleaning through them for a while. I’m as anxious as you are to see if clothing for two people plus the linens can fit in this closet!

One thing Kondo mentions in her book is that you have to successfully live in your own space. She says the space you have is the right amount of storage for you – I’m paraphrasing here. That thought process ties into one I discovered in my Law of Attraction studies. So, it seems to be universal.

Somewhere along the line in my research, I came across the concept of having different forms of “me” in the closet, meaning the reason so many of us have so many clothes is we have the old me, the me I want to be (perhaps through many different trials and errors) and the me that I am. I found this an intriguing way to think about my belongings as I began my KonMari journey.

The question we’re supposed to ask as we hold each item in hand is, “Does this spark joy?” As I was tidying, I added a caveat to that – “Do I love it so much I’m willing to move it?” – meaning, the next time I pack up for a new abode, do I want that to come with me? And, pay the moving charges! Certainly, by that time, many items in my wardrobe will have been replaced with new ones, but I kept the question in mind for future categories.

Once I discovered the Stylebook app, the energy surge I had for this was so strong, it was almost scary. I didn’t know if this was for my benefit or for my readers. Either way, it was an energy I hadn’t felt in a long time and it felt good.

I think most people clean through their clothes somewhat regularly, so I wasn’t sure just how much I would discard, but at the very least, I was interested in reworking the items in the closet and drawers to utilize them more efficiently.

As i go through my wardrobe, I also want to identify and discard those items that I have that don’t bring me joy when I wear them. You certainly must have a few of those items, the ones where you almost dread putting them on but you haven’t found adequate replacements that make you feel good so you just keep wearing them. Well, this time they’re going!

When it was time to get started, I knew I’d have to break every category down into sub-categories, just due to time constraints. I’m sure it’s a very interesting experience to clean through all your clothing at once, but smaller categories are easier for me to digest. I suspect I wouldn’t be able to walk through my bedroom or living room if I put all my clothes into a big pile, but because I take care of my Mom, it just wasn’t practical. I had to do it in chunks.

I decided to start with t-shirts. I knew I had a lot but i hardly ever wear them. I put them all in a pile on my bed – sorry, I refuse to throw my good clothes on the floor. How would you feel if someone did that to you? – and was quite amazed to discover that for someone who rarely wears t-shirts, I had almost 70 of them!

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My big pile of t-shirts! I had to take them all off their hangers.

I decided to do this first batch a little differently than Kondo suggests. Since she says you should feel energy when you touch an article of clothing, i decided to clean through my t-shirts with my eyes closed. To my left, I put a chair where I would place items to keep and to my right, discards.

The keepers!

The keepers 🙂

The discards

The discards 🙁

To my surprise, the final tally was actually pretty close to accurate. I did pull five shirts from the discard pile, but I also discarded five shirts from the keep pile once I started cataloging and folding them.

All folded and snuggled in the drawer!

All folded and snuggled in the drawer!

In the end, I kept only 23 t-shirts, mostly from university, sports teams or concerts. I followed the video on Lavendaire’s YouTube channel and lovingly folded my t-shirts, placing them into their new home. Once hung, these shirts now take up exactly one drawer, Most people place them horizontally in the drawer, but for me, vertically worked better,

My t-shirt discards filled an entire garbage bag! I can only imagine what is yet to come once I get into more clothing categories.

Folding was actually fun, and I’ve since used t-shirts from the drawer and they are wrinkle-free! I used to hang them because I thought that would prevent wrinkles, but in actuality, they were more wrinkled hanging, and I couldn’t tell what I had. All I saw was a sea of green or black or white sleeves. Now I can see everything I own!

What category will I do next? Come back and see!

Enjoy!

Cindi

KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #4 Random Thoughts

Magic of Tidying Up

The Sex and the City movie just happened to be on several nights in a row as I began my discarding process, and I felt a bit at odds with KonMari at the time. In her book,  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo, Kondo advises that we should commune with our stuff in private and in complete silence.

In the movie, when Carrie cleans through the closet at her old apartment before moving in with Big, she has her three best friends with her – plus adorable little Lily – along with lots of champagne and great music to help guide her in deciding what should stay and what should go. Well, Carrie’s way seems so much more fun! Alas, I stuck to the KonMari way.

The KonMari Method is not that far off from my own personal experience with moving. During previous moves – including moving my Mom – I’d already begun to sort, discard and pack according to category, long before KonMari had made its way into my life. I started to sort  that way because it was too confusing and difficult to gauge how much of any item I had until I gathered like items all in one place, then eliminated as needed. So, in essence, I had begun doing a very similar tidying on my own. Still, this book helped me to take it one step further.

Moving is a great time to purge and if you have the time, do it well in advance. That way, you can pack all the vases, mementos, cookbooks and so on in the same boxes. That will make it so much easier to unpack at your new home. If you pack by room, the items might not go into the same room at your new place. Clothing, of course, is different, but you might decide to create a library and the books that once went into your office or master bedroom are now going into your magnificent new library.

One of the great things about the KonMari method is it takes you out of the mindset of looking for ways to display or store things and into questioning whether or not you need them in the first place. Also, by categorizing your belongings, you not only see the quantity of items you own, you can determine how many near-duplicates you have and just how many your lifestyle requires.

Kondo prompts us to ask ourselves about each item, “Does this spark joy?” I’ve added a caveat to that: “Am I willing to pay to move it?” If I don’t feel the least bit interested in paying to move it next time I move, it goes in the pile. That has taken me off the fence several times.

I  have to also admit that using the Stylebook app in conjunction with the closet cleanse has been a real eye-opener for me. Not only was I required to touch every single item in my wardrobe and choose what brings me joy, I also have an inventory which will help me to make better buying decisions in the future, as well as better utilizing my wardrobe in general. More on that when I discuss my closet in-depth.

Seems I’ve always had an eBay pile which has held up my tidying, but this time I’m going full force. i probably added another 30 items easily to the eBay pile just from my closet. Kondo doesn’t really cover the idea of selling your discards in her book, but in a transcript of a Q&A she gave which I found online, she said if it brings you joy to sell it, then do so, but it will take time and are you willing to put your joy on hold while you do? Good question but at the present time, I’d say it’s a yes for me.

One thought I had along the way is that, God forbid, should I not walk this earth tomorrow, all my belongings would just be stuff, stuff that gets donated or sold at a garage sale or parceled out among my family or trashed. So, while I may have an emotional attachment to an item, no one else probably will, at which point I have to ask myself, why should I? If something truly sparks joy, that’s not an issue. It’s always the things we ruminate about that are the culprits, energy wasters, power takers.

Kondo solves the problem of where to begin. Other books offer alternative methods of cleaning and organizing, and I have found a few that delve into the psychology of why we have what we have. But Kondo uses a very pragmatic approach to discover which belongings truly bring us joy, and provides a gameplan to attack in a specific order. Does she answer all my questions as I’m going through the process? No, but it’s OK to think for ourselves and that’s part of the reason I started to blog about it. You  might have similar questions.

I’m very excited to be on this journey, and I hope that you’ll be inspired to begin your own and to share your thoughts. I can’t wait to see how much I’ve discarded in the end!

So, enough talking, let’s get to work! Next up: Clothing.

Enjoy!

Cindi

KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #2 Process

Magic of Tidying Up

It seems talking about one’s personal possessions ranks right up there with money. Both subjects are taboo. Much as we don’t share our financial details with others, sharing the quantity and status of what we own is usually off the agenda. And, as we hardly ever entertain in our homes any more, it’s often not a topic one worries about.

But this book changed all that for me: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo, Once I read it, I wanted to jump right in and share my thoughts and experiences. However, after reading the book, i still felt i needed a bit more information. Kondo lives in Japan and while Japan and quite frankly most of the world have much smaller housing and storage than we Americans do, i wanted to see how others were approaching their tidying after reading her book.

I’ve also recently been fascinated by the tiny house craze (see future post), so the whole concept of taking it down to the studs, so to speak, seems to fit with Kondo’s method.

I opted to go to YouTube since there were some questions I had that needed visuals, like how to fold your clothes properly. She talks about it in her book, but I wanted to see it in action.

I particularly love Lavendaire’s short videos on folding clothes the KonMari way. She’s super sweet and went through the discarding process in her abode, which she also posted on YouTube. And, I love her hair! Check out the videos on her channel here:

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I was also drawn to the series of KonMari tidying sessions by Jen at Pretty Neat Living. She’s sort of a cross between Lea Michele and Charlotte from Sex and the CIty with a touch of Jennifer Garner. She’s very genuine and you feel that she could be your friend for life. She’s a lifestyle blogger who covers a variety of topics from travel to cooking and, of course, organization. Check out the videos on her channel here:

Another person I found intriguing was Living Like Julie. Julie is also a lifestyle blogger who shares her insights on a variety of home and beauty topics. She has gone through the KonMari tidying and has a number of great videos posted. She’s so relaxed and in control of everything. It’s refreshing to watch her videos. Here is a link to her channel:

Living Like Julie

There are videos of speeches Kondo has given, but I just don’t have the time for it at the moment. However, I do want to go back mostly to see the photos she includes in her presentations. The befores and afters must be pretty mind blowing!

Kondo has a specific order for cleaning, beginning with clothing. If you can’t do all your clothing in one day, then break it up into small categories, but don’t jump to another category until you finish the one you’re currently working on. This is a test of self-control as I want to go and grab those items I know I want to toss, but since she says there’s a method to her madness, I’ll aim to follow her rules.

I didn’t find much on YouTube beyond clothing, books and paperwork, the first three categories in the cleansing process. I don’t know if people tired of cleaning or they just haven’t gotten there yet, However, there are some folks who made it all the way and for them, i applaud their tenacity. This is hard work!

There are some other videos I liked. Kondo says not to let anyone else see what you’re discarding, but the gentleman in the Project Lifecoach video is so cute when Mom comes in to see what he’s tossing:

Another favorite of mine was when the woman was sorting through her shoes and her husband decided to join in:

You would think I could search online forever, inevitably delaying my own tidying journey, but alas, i tired of all the extra info. I went back to the book and started to plan my own household cleanse.

Oh, yes, there was one more bit of information I found online that really got my energy in high gear for this. More in my next post.

KonMari Method – My Tidying Journey #1 Intro

Magic of Tidying Up

 

I believe most people can use a little help when it comes to keeping their homes clean and organized. Yes, there are some folks who prefer to live a sort of Spartan existence and while I marvel at their ability to do so, in America for the most part, people tend to be keepers. Just look at the number of storage units across the country.

I also believe that if you hear the same comment or question from three or more people in a short period of time, you need to address what it is you’re being told. For me, it was this book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo.

I’m pretty organized about my business, but my house sometimes needs a touch-up. Doing one more really good sweep of my house has been on my mind for a few years. About six years ago, i completely painted the interior of the house as well as the garage, so every single item in my house got moved. That was a great time to do some major purging.

Purging and organizing are like peeling layers off an onion. Every time you peel off one layer, it becomes evident that you can part with even more. However, my peeling was put on hold.

Just when i was down to a few boxes of stuff to eBay and a couple of boxes of paperwork, my life changed.

Mom moved in.

I spent six weeks cleaning her house, a house she and my Dad and all of my siblings and I had lived in over a period of 60 years. When Kondo says we aren’t taught to tidy and organize as children, that was evident to me during the massive undertaking of moving my Mom.

Both of my parents were raised during the Depression, so rather than toss, their inclination was to save – EVERYTHING. From rubber bands to broken toys, once in the house it never left. So, we weren’t taught to discard either.

It was also during this moving process that I realized that when it’s my turn to move or pass on, I don’t want anyone to have to go through my stuff. It may be easier because there’s no emotional attachment as there is for me, but it truly should be much easier for me to clean through my things rather than have any other person do so.

The moving adventure reminded me how important and life-supporting it is to live in a clean and organized house. Nothing beats being surrounded by the things you love and always knowing where to find what you need.

While I lovingly cleaned my Mom’s house because I was super thrilled to have her moving in with me, it was a monumental task. It wasn’t a matter of her living in the same town, either. She was 1700 miles away and I had a limited timeframe to accomplish my work.

Some people say, “Oh, the kids will have such a good time cleaning the house after I’m gone. It will be like a treasure hunt.” To them, I say, pick a spot and start cleaning! Unless you are physically or mentally unable to do so, it’s much better to live in a clean and organized environment. Plus, believe me, it’s not a treasure hunt.

Needless to say, I couldn’t get absolutely everything sorted during that short six-week period, but I got 95 percent done. The other five percent I shipped for me to deal with back home.

While I cleaned through quite a bit upon our return, I just got sick of going through stuff. I’d spent hours upon hours on it at Mom’s house, and i needed a break.

Now, four years since Mom moved in, I’m ready to tackle the rest of the mess. However, this little book made its way into my life. I had to read it!

While I had accomplished the huge tidying prior to Mom’s arrival, and kept clean and organized those areas that were well-purged, items would flash into my mind while I read the book. There were definitely still things I could part with and probably never miss.

Kondo makes you approach your purging and organizing in a different way. Some people may find it a bit odd, but it seems to resonate with me. I’m reading the book for a second time – at least key points – and  I will probably go through sections again and again as I make my way through the house.

I’m not sure how stringently I can abide by everything Kondo suggests, and there are areas that she doesn’t fully address, but I’m going to take a stab at things and see what happens.

She estimates it will take six months of one’s life to fully tidy up a household. As today is my birthday, I couldn’t think of a better present to give myself than the gift of a fully organized and happy life. God willing, I can get it done.

I’ll do all my stuff first, then clean through some Mom things that still need to be addressed – as long as she’ll let me.

I’ll post updates from time to time with photos when appropriate. I’ll share my insights and lessons learned along the way. We’ll see what my place looks like in six months.

Wish me luck!